Earlier this year, shit hit the fan.
Long story short, my relationship ended and I had to find a new place to live.
A failed relationship is such a blow. I pride myself in being strong and independent and it really hit my self-confidence. My mind was blurry, and after a few weeks of wallowing and negative thoughts, I made a decision to cut that self-pity out. With the help of my family and friends, I realized I didn’t want to occupy space in my mind that wasn’t productive or efficient.
As a logical thinker, I very quickly put at plan in place and started house hunting. I filled my time with bank meetings, house hunting, research and work. It was so therapeutic for me and really helped me regain my confidence. Within a month, I’d experienced both the lowest, and highest points in my life so far and I was so proud of my accomplishment.
I am not ashamed to announce my pride and I know that there is value in self affirmation. I think it’s really important to believe in myself and have ambition. No matter the difficulty or adversity, if I believe I can do something, I will work to get it done. This mentality has got me where I am now though it might come across as cocky. We all go through personal struggles, and it is important to accept failure and then move on. This was a great learning opportunity and I am using my recent experiences as a moment of self-reflection and growth (this includes listening to lots of TED talks lately).
“I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.” – Dr. Ivan Joseph
